We’ve all experienced periods of loneliness while single, times we want nothing more than to be in a committed relationship. I spent a lot of time wishing for a guy to come sweep me off my feet, but here’s how I stopped craving love and started embracing my life as-is.
1. I STOPPED PANICKING.
A big part of my problem was my total misinterpretation of the situation. I really thought that just because it hadn’t happened yet, it meant it actually never would. I was desperate for “my” guy to come along to prove that this wasn’t the case. Once I admitted to myself that I was panicking for nothing, I was able to relinquish this fear.
2. I REALIZED IT WAS A SYMPTOM OF A BIGGER PROBLEM.
I didn’t so much want or need a relationship. In reality, I craved a semblance of order in my life. I wanted to be living in sync with my priorities, and joyfully. The relationship part was a mask for what was really missing in my life: my own sense of fulfillment.
3. I LET EVERYTHING FALL AWAY.
Once I focused more on myself and my life as a whole rather than my relationship status, I let everything that was out of sync with my highest goals fall away. I quit my job, left my apartment, moved cities, and did a 360-turn on my lifestyle. I needed a blank slate, so I gave myself that gift.
4. I FOCUSED ON MYSELF.
Once I had my blank slate, I was free to rebuild my life with only those people, conditions, and experiences that I truly wanted. I learned self-care had a lot more to do with making time for my projects and side-hustles than bubble baths and pamper sessions.
5. I STOPPED GOING ON DATES.
Dating for the sake of it absolutely sucks. There’s nothing more demoralizing than the umpteenth date in the pursuit of that elusive and seemingly unattainable “One.” I stopped forcing myself to look for what I was not having any luck finding and again focused on the things that are right in front of me.